To See Each Other Before the Ceremony or Not


Ah, Tradition.  Sometimes we don’t know WHY we do it, but we just know we WANT to do it.  To all those wedding purists out there – to see each other before or not… that is the question.

It has been said it is bad luck for the Bride & Groom to see each other before the ceremony.   I guess if you are superstitious this would be a little disconcerting, but I think we can all agree this isn’t really true.  The main reason Brides don’t want to see each other before is because they want that fairy tale moment of walking down the aisle and gazing into their Groom’s eyes, hoping they look good enough to shock or make him cry (in a good way).

The problem with this is… it rarely happens this way.  Most of the time, the Bride is so nervous about walking, holding her bouquet and hitting her mark that she forgets to do her gazing part. Then, when she reaches her Groom, she can’t hug, kiss or talk to him. It goes right into the ceremony without a minute to breathe.

Now, I am a romantic through and through.  I get it.  A Bride wants to be so stunning that she takes her love’s breath away.  We all want that right?  However, I am going to give you a few reasons why you should consider doing a special first look before the ceremony and ditch the traditional way.

  1.  You can have your first look any way you want.  It can be walking down the aisle like the traditional way.  You can have the Groom turned around and the Bride walk up behind him and touch him on the shoulder, or I have seen a Father drive the Bride to the Groom on a tractor.  It’s up to you!  It can just be the two of you and the photographer, or your entire family can watch.  The point is, you can get creative and STILL get that fairy tale moment without the stress of guests watching your every move.
  2. You can touch and kiss.  The first thing you will want to do is kiss and tell each other how wonderful you look.  You can’t do this up at the altar.  You can hug, give each other letters, laugh and talk.  It helps break the tension of nerves and you both go into the ceremony as a confident unit.
  3. The pictures are better.  Depending on where you are getting married, the photographer will most likely get better pictures during a first look.  Especially the more formal your church is, often the photographer can only take pictures from behind.  This is the moment you have dreamed of!  You need to get it from all sides.  You want every emotion captured.  That will happen with a first look.
  4. You save so much time & it is very guest friendly.  If you start pictures 2 – 3 hours prior to your wedding, you can get 99% of your pictures done before the ceremony!  This leaves extra time for you to get sunset pictures, focus on time with your guests, not feel rushed.  Guests are not waiting to eat, getting bored. I cannot tell you how many Brides & Grooms tell me they are so glad they chose to do it this way.

Ultimately, this is YOUR choice.  If you have a wedding coordinator, they will help you regardless.  Brides still choose to wait until the ceremony. Just know that you will be very likely rushing to get all your pictures done before guests start getting antsy and leave.  No, it isn’t fair, but this is how the flow of weddings tend to go now.

Remember, just because we have been doing it a certain way for years, doesn’t mean it is the best choice or option for you.

Here’s to Bliss,



Crista Tharp, CBSP is an award winning event planner, entrepreneur, author and speaker. As the CEO of Blissfully Simple™ Events, Crista has worked in the event planning industry for more than 15 years and has authored 11 books, designed more than 1,000 events, and spoken at numerous conferences and workshops. She is also the creator of the Blissfully Simple Wedding Planning Business System, a turn-key business system for those who want to be successful wedding planners. Crista has been featured in the New York Times, Associated press, Fox 59 and hundreds of industry blogs and publications. She does all this in addition to being blissfully married and mom to 10 children. Crista is considered an industry expert and is one of the Midwest’s highly sought after event planners. Feel free to use this article, but you must post the bio above in its entirety.


We Survived!

On Wednesday, Kokomo endured 10 tornado touch downs.  Several were in our area; however, we sustained no damage from the storms.

We were very lucky & are very blessed.

Thank you to all those who called and checked up on us.  We appreciate your kindness and concern.  We are all set and ready for or next wedding on September 3rd.  Make sure to check out our Facebook page for pictures!

When to Send “Save the Date” Cards



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Send the Date Cards are when you send an announcement to guests prior to sending the information.  They generally include the names of the couple, the city and date of the wedding and say “Invitation to follow”.

However, There are really only 2 reasons to send the date cards:

  1. If your wedding falls on a holiday
  2. If you have a significant amount of guests who will need to make travel arrangements like airline flights

If your wedding does not have either of these issues, then you really do not need to send them. But a lot of Brides want to and that is completely fine.  There are MANY different options you have from magnets to postcards.  Be creative and have fun.  They do not need to match your invitations.  Just let it represent you and your love.

If you have any questions regarding this or anything else, please contact us at                   765-863-1222 or  We want you to have the best experience possible!



Head Table Versus a Sweetheart Table

I’ve been an event planner for almost 20 years and I have watched trends come and go.  The head table has lasted a pretty long time.  However, it is starting to join the very long list of “things done in the past.”

Why?  Well, the Bridal Party wants to be with their family or date.  In fact, part of my jobs these days has been finding Groomsmen who have left their duties at the head table to sit with their girlfriends.  It becomes annoying and starts to really frustrate the Bride because it wastes time trying to find them.

Hence, the proliferation of the sweetheart table.  Generally, a round table for just the Bride & Groom; or they can also have their Maid of Honor & Best Man sit with them as well.  The couple then has reserved tables for their Bridal Party along with their “plus one” or family.  It works really well, so it is becoming more popular.

Another reason to ditch the head table is when you have a large Bridal Party.  It takes up waaaay too much space and causes layout issues.  It is so much easier and frankly, beautiful, to have a smaller table for the couple.

Whatever you decide, we at the Legacy Barn will make it work the best way possible.  If you have any questions, please contact us at 765-863-1222 or at

Why is Everything Wedding so Expensive, Deposits Non-Refundable, and why a Security Deposit?


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I know that it can seem like everything that has the word,”wedding” in front of it becomes astronomical in cost.  Believe it or not, there really is a good reason that wedding services tend to be more expensive.

For example, if you were to buy a birthday cake, it is usually a 5 minute phone call to order and 10 minutes to run into the store to pick it up.  However, for a wedding cake, you make an appointment, spend at least an hour tasting cake and talking flavors, shapes and decorations.  A wedding cake usually takes 2-3 days to bake & decorate and then, they must be delivered delicately, on time and perfect in every way.  That difference is shown in the cost of the cake. So there are very real reasons for wedding goods and services to cost more – but we also hope you notice that those services and products are exceedingly good & worth every penny.

So why are deposits non-refundable?  Put yourself into a wedding vendor’s shoes.  They meet with you, discuss every bit of your wedding, take your date off of their books, work on your event; & then you decide the wedding is off, needs to reschedule, or you just decide to elope.  Hey, it happens ALL THE TIME.  We get it.  However, in the meantime, in addition to the work we have put into YOUR event, we have most likely turned away other potential Brides.  That means even WITH the small deposit we are keeping, we have actually lost at least 3 times that amount because we have turned Brides away.  NONE of us like it and we certainly aren’t taking advantage of you, but it is necessary.  The best way to avoid this is to make sure you are ready to sign those contracts.  Read them through and make sure you understand the policy and fees required.

A security deposit is charged in order to cover any damage to a venue or rental products.  They are usually deposited prior to the wedding and then returned right after the event assuming everything is as it was before the event.  Reasons for keeping a security deposit have included (but are not limited to):

  • Broken furniture
  • burned or scratched carpet, walls, or counters
  • vomit in the sinks (this really happens)
  • Cigarette burns EVERYWHERE on a property where no smoking is allowed
  • Things stolen from the property
  • Broken equipment
  • and so on..

Generally, most events are well-behaved and the deposit is swiftly returned.  But there have been instances where repairs have to be made and that is where the security deposit is kept.  Trust me, in cases where there is damage, the security deposit rarely covers the cost of fixing everything.

Weddings can be amazing events.  Hopefully, the above information will help you to understand some of the more confusing aspects.  We at the Legacy Barn strive to make your experience the best it can possibly be.  Please contact us if you have any further questions on this question or anything else.,; 765-863-1222




The Top 3 Things to Tell Your Guests about Your Barn Wedding


A barn can give a wedding a rustic, charming feel that just seems to bring families together.  I don’t know if it is the easy going atmosphere or the feeling of going back to basics, but barn venues are one of the top wedding destinations across the country – with no end in sight.

There are a few things that you should remind your guests of before your wedding so their experience is as enjoyable as possible.  The best way to do this is to include “A Note from the Bride & Groom” with your invitations.  They don’t need to be very expensive, just a simple postcard size that you can print on your own printer.  The following are the 3 most important things to make sure your guests know:


  1. Dress for the weather – Most barn weddings have an outdoor element to them.  It might be a ceremony under the trees or the barn may not be temperature controlled.  Let you guests know if there is air conditioning or heat.  You might want to prepare them for bugs or rain as well.  Let them know what part of your event is outside so they can dress accordingly. I have seen Brides provide blankets or fans for the guests just in case.


2.  Ditch the stilettos – Again, if your wedding is at a rustic, rural or farm-like area, there will be grass, and lots of it.  Even though you tell them, ladies will still wear those instruments of torture – but at least you warned them.  Some couples even offer a basket of flip flops for guests who didn’t heed their warning.


3. Potential Allergies – Some of these farms have actual animals that come with them.  Live animals add an air of authenticity and excitement to a party.  They also offer smells and possible allergic reactions.  Let you guests know if this so they can decide whether they need to bring medicine with them just in case their allergies flare up.  No one likes it when that happens!

Rustic venues are a beautiful option for weddings.  They offer scenery and experiences that can’t be replicated in a formal ballroom.  We at the Legacy Barn want you to have the weddings of your dreams and we hope these tips help you to make it everything you could ever imagine.


Certificate of Liability Insurance: What is it & why do we Require it?


Insurance is a great thing.  We don’t like paying premiums, but when we need it, it is there to help us through what is generally a rough time.

The Legacy Barn is completely & fully licensed and insured, so why do we request our clients (of larger events) to get a special certificate of Liability Insurance through their homeowners?  Because we want YOU to be as covered as possible.

Weddings are big and tend to be expensive.  They have lots of guests and usually alcohol is involved.  The possibility of something happening to one of your guests goes up immensley. Consider this scenerio:

A guest at your wedding was drinking, left the party and caused a major car accident.  He/she severely injured a person.  Immediately, the injured party or their family starts what is called a “shot gun suit” – which means they are going to sue EVERYONE involved with the party – including you!  This insurance will cover your defense costs as well as other things to keep you safe.  Without it, you may be liable for defense costs and damages of an astronomical number.  It also helps us keep our insurance costs low so we can keep the rental costs as low as possible for our clients.

Your homeowners insurance agent will help you with your options.  If you don’t own a home, you can get a renters policy or even an umbrella policy.  This is VERY STANDARD in the event industry.  With the amount of people who come through our property, we have to take every precaution to keep everyone safe.  That includes you!  The minimal $200 (or so) cost is your special “event” insurance that saves you thousands of dollars and potential grief and stress.

Your wedding should be fun, memorable and safe.  That’s why we require it. Let us know if you have any questions!



We Now Provide Linens!

We are proud to announce that we now offer basic tablecloth linens (white, ivory, tan & black) with both of our wedding packages.  These linens will be 90″ rounds, which go a little less than half way down the legs; and banquet cloths that fit 8″ banquet tables.  We can provide you other colors, napkins and table skirting for a small up-charge if you are interested.  We are doing everything we can to make the Legacy Barn the premier Barn venue in Indiana!


We are proud to announce our open house is May 10th from 4-7pm!  Come see all the upgrades that have been added to make the Barn even better for our clients.  Here is just a sneak preview of what you’ll see:

  • Gorgeous chandelier
  • Brand new remote screen & projector AV equipment
  • Brand new handicap accessible bathroom on main level
  • Large Men’s restroom on lower level
  • Large Women’s restroom on lower level
  • Gorgeous temperature controlled Bride’s Room
  • The ultimate Man Cave in the original Bull pens, complete with a rustic outhouse
  • and so much more!

Please join us and pass it on to those engaged couples you know!